I thought it was interesting that in the early stages of the event, Sue Storm wasn't involved in the murder of Hank Pym at all. They figured Wolverine should have a murder buddy and it needed to be someone that fans wouldn't expect to go along with murder. That ties into one of the fundamental problems of this and most event comics Marvel puts on. Shock first, explanation later. I guess if you can see Sue Storm not bothering to try another course of action other than murder because she has kids solid characterization, then great for you. I don't.
And, frankly, just because you don't like the examples being bandied about doesn't mean they aren't valid. Amazons Attack was a poorly thought out event that was delayed by a year and then haphazardly released, with a handful of mediocre tie-ins and was quickly forgotten about by everyone at the company as DC was much more interested in selling fans their next event. Both had okay art, shitty dialogue and laughably bad characterization/story points. Oh, and Amazons Attack smacked of misogyny, while Age of Ultron killed off its minority characters via a flight of stairs and off-panel in a hut, so they both could launch some uncomfortable discussions about minorities in comics if anyone really cared.
And for the record, saying that a comic book is shitty doesn't mean that I'm calling people who like them idiots. It means they like shitty comics. Some people like shitty movies, some people like shitty TV shows, some people like shitty comics. There's nothing wrong with that. People liked Avengers vs. X-Men while admitting that it was the equivalent to playing with action figures in the sandbox.
Figuring that Wolverine should have a murder buddy isn't that simple, and I'm stunned that anyone read it that way. She was clearly conflicted -- she knew what Wolverine was going to do, as did everyone, and Bendis wrote the character to say it.
I think that reducing that interaction is simply attempting to minimize what Bendis did there -- I clearly see that as a character who went with Wolverine knowing what he was likely going to try to do, was truly conflicted about it but couldn't figure out another way around it, because at the end of the day, EVERYBODY WAS DEAD.
Having her go was a great choice, because it shows how everyone is a hero...until they're not. She could've stopped Wolverine, but she didn't. She made a choice to allow Hank Pym to die, because she felt that his death then was better than her life "now."
That's fodder for great storytelling. Again, we can agree to disagree, but it's not as simple as Sue Richards being reduced to "a murder buddy."