kingofcities wrote:Okay, and runaway trains are more dangerous than butterflies. ??? The smoking thing is irrelevent to this discussion.
No, it's not. It's a similar imposition on the people around you. Just as people with and without kids don't want to be subjected to other people's crying children, I and most everyone else don't want to be subjected to other people's second hand smoke. But unless your state has passed laws regulating smoking, there's not a whole lot you can do about it except leave.
So I don't see why people should accept or expect that parents of crying children should automatically be the ones to have to leave a situation. Sure, it's the polite and considerate thing to do. But when it comes down to it, if you're in public, and the owner/operator of the place you're at won't do anything to address the problem, you can always leave.
And consider this...that parent? They don't get to leave. Even if they get a babysitter, they always have to come back and face that child again. So whatever they do, they are the ones that have to deal with the consequences of how they choose to act on it. Xavy's had some tantrums, and anyone who's tried to hold a kid that's determined NOT to be held should be able to attest to just how difficult it can be. When he wants down, there's not much I can do short of injuring him to hold him. In that case, the best thing to do is apologize to the people around you, and just let the kid work it out.
I was in line a Wal Mart once, and a man was there with his toddler child. The kid was acting up, crying not overly loud about how he wanted something, but loud enough that I glanced over. The father says that he was going to spank the kid "If one more person looks at me because of you."
I wanted to hit the guy, threatening a child because the father felt embarrased. He was trying to do something, too.