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by **Jubilee** » Sat Jun 28, 2008 4:58 pm

So I actually meet the girl of my dreams, she's new to my college (very new) insanely pretty, and pretty funny. She's pretty quiet but hey, no-ones perfect.

And I'm dating her.

Awesome right.

But instead of just being happy, I'm somehow constantly seeing my ex, who is going out with one of my friends. Not an exceedingly close friend, but still a really good lad.

My ex is nowhere near as hot, a bit of a bitch, and not as well liked. But I can't stop seeing her. It's not like I need to or she needs to, but for some reason we ALWAYS end back up together. No-one else at school has an inkling of what's going on, but I feel proper guilty about it all.

Am I being a dick, as much as I want to like new girl, I get that nagging feeling in my head that she's not as perfect as I wish she was. How can I go back to my ex without fucking everything up.

Is it worth actually going back out with a girl I've been out with before, even if it means I fuck over a lot of people in the process. Just because what I have with her is deeper.

Has anyone here done this?

Because try as I might, I'm really tempted to go walk to me exes help now, and I can't talk about it anywhere. I've tried to make this thread so many times this week just so I can talk about it.

Aaaa!

by **nietoperz** » Sat Jun 28, 2008 5:00 pm

You need to sit down and decide who you want to be with, if in fact you want to be with either of them at all. The path you're on doesn't end well, and you're the one who's going to end up hurting the worst.

by **Jubilee** » Sat Jun 28, 2008 5:01 pm

nietoperz wrote:You need to sit down and decide who you want to be with, if in fact you want to be with either of them at all. The path you're on doesn't end well, and you're the one who's going to end up hurting the worst.

You're like a father figure sometimes Nieto, it's pretty cool.

I WANT to be with new girl, I can't stop being with old one.

I think if I could chose, I'd be with old girl... but I can't be with her

by **Jonathan** » Sat Jun 28, 2008 5:02 pm

Wait....your name is Richard Twigg AND your living a Hinder song?

by **Jubilee** » Sat Jun 28, 2008 5:03 pm

Jonathan wrote:Wait....your name is Richard Twigg AND your living a Hinder song?

I don't know Hinder... I'm going to pretend I get the reference and put a :evil:

by **daitong** » Sat Jun 28, 2008 5:04 pm

Twigglet wrote::( You're like a father figure sometimes Nieto, it's pretty cool.

I WANT to be with new girl, I can't stop being with old one.

I think if I could chose, I'd be with old girl... but I can't be with her

Take Houman's advice. Believe me, it won't end pretty. Most times, the continued attraction to the old is because of familiarity. New can be scary and unpredictable.

by **Jonathan** » Sat Jun 28, 2008 5:07 pm

Twigglet wrote:I don't know Hinder... I'm going to pretend I get the reference and put a

Hinder - "Lips Of An Angel"

Listen to it. Love it. Live it. Oh, wait....you are. :twisted:

by **Jubilee** » Sat Jun 28, 2008 5:08 pm

Jonathan wrote:Hinder - "Lips Of An Angel"

Listen to it. Love it. Live it. Oh, wait....you are.

I get the feeling you are mocking me "Jonathan"

:-D

by **nietoperz** » Sat Jun 28, 2008 5:09 pm

daitong wrote:Take Houman's advice. Believe me, it won't end pretty. Most times, the continued attraction to the old is because of familiarity. New can be scary and unpredictable.

Yes, and despite the obvious danger in the old, there's still something almost comforting in getting into that danger - even if you know it's going to end badly. But it WILL end badly.

by **Jubilee** » Sat Jun 28, 2008 5:10 pm

I'm seeing old girl tomorrow.

We're going to have a proper talk, I've only text her briefly, but I think we know something needs to be said.

by **Jonathan** » Sat Jun 28, 2008 5:15 pm

Twigglet wrote:I get the feeling you are mocking me "Jonathan"

I would NEVER mock a man in pain.....

I would, however, take a few small jabs....

by **Strict31** » Sat Jun 28, 2008 5:16 pm

Twigglet wrote:Is it worth actually going back out with a girl I've been out with before, even if it means I fuck over a lot of people in the process. Just because what I have with her is deeper.

Has anyone here done this?

Because try as I might, I'm really tempted to go walk to me exes help now, and I can't talk about it anywhere. I've tried to make this thread so many times this week just so I can talk about it.

Aaaa!

No, I've never done that. I almost did. I dunno what stopped me.

A girl I once dated did exactly that, all the time with one of her exes. Being a youngish sort of fool at the time, I thought she had stopped while she was with me. And maybe she did...eh. Ancient history.

Anyway, yeah, she kept going back to this guy even when she was dating other people. Even when he was dating other people. Odd thing about it, their relationship didn't really work unless there was someone else in the picture, you know what I'm sayin'? It didn't feel "good" for them unless they felt they were breaking some sorta rule.

And hey that really flips some folks' switches, you know.

Moral of the story, they eventually got married. Had some kids. Well, had a kid and then got married. And it fucked over her career, which was, at one point in time, the most important thing to her. And so now, both of them are hitched to folks they know for a fact cannot remain faithful.

Make of that what you will.

Personally, I reckon since you're probably young, you may wanna do that which brings the most fun for you without necessarily hurting other people. Just make sure that it stays fun, you know? Don't get hooked up with something that starts ball-and-chainin' you. And I dunno, but it sounds like this girl is the kinda person that could easily cause you to slip into a destructive routine.

But if you can keep your perspective, and know when to recognize the writing on the wall, grab some ass and have some fun.

by **Jubilee** » Sat Jun 28, 2008 5:18 pm

Strict31 wrote:No, I've never done that. I almost did. I dunno what stopped me.

A girl I once dated did exactly that, all the time with one of her exes. Being a youngish sort of fool at the time, I thought she had stopped while she was with me. And maybe she did...eh. Ancient history.

Anyway, yeah, she kept going back to this guy even when she was dating other people. Even when he was dating other people. Odd thing about it, their relationship didn't really work unless there was someone else in the picture, you know what I'm sayin'? It didn't feel "good" for them unless they felt they were breaking some sorta rule.

And hey that really flips some folks' switches, you know.

Moral of the story, they eventually got married. Had some kids. Well, had a kid and then got married. And it fucked over her career, which was, at one point in time, the most important thing to her. And so now, both of them are hitched to folks they know for a fact cannot remain faithful.

Make of that what you will.

Personally, I reckon since you're probably young, you may wanna do that which brings the most fun for you without necessarily hurting other people. Just make sure that it stays fun, you know? Don't get hooked up with something that starts ball-and-chainin' you. And I dunno, but it sounds like this girl is the kinda person that could easily cause you to slip into a destructive routine.

But if you can keep your perspective, and know when to recognize the writing on the wall, grab some ass and have some fun.

You make some very good points. It's awesome how I've never met you people, and yet you can help me with this sorta shit. It's nice hving somewhere to turn.

by **KING King Impulse** » Sat Jun 28, 2008 5:29 pm

I'm in a similar boat, so I know what it's like.

It seems that similar to me, you enjoyed your time with the old so you want that back just because it seems easier, but trust me, stick with the new. From how you describe them, it sounds like you're into the new more, but are trying to rationalise a reason to cling to the old.

Or maybe not, I may be entirely wrong, but in my opinion stick with the new girl, she sounds awesome