Did you ever get a chance to return the favor to that one personal reference that was screwing you over? Or otherwise torch his car or something along those lines?
I wrote to him letting him know how much he had screwed me over. He never wrote back and I can't imagine ever talking to him again. To think that this guy called me his friend.
One of my former bosses stepped up and gave me a glowing recommendation and I was hired right after that. He really has gone out of his way to try and help me through all of this and I will return the favor any chance I can. He was trying to create a position for me at his job and is excited and bummed at the same time that I got a job.