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definitely, Ari. I don't remember as crystal-clear a moment for myself, as to like when it became clear this wasn't just something to masturbate over, that it was a real thing that I had to face, but I think it had to deal with like feelings or whatever ("feelings or whatever," said the ever so stoic Chris!) for an old HS friend. To be sure, those never materialised, but to feel That Way about a friend, a close friend, a guy--having never felt anything like it for a gal friend? That was probably the turning point.
What surprises me msot, tangentially, is the amount of people to whom I've come out and they're like, were you molested? And I'm like, no, I just like dudes! And then I tell them the 4h camp story. But no, no moleste. And I guess this doesn't bother me maybe as much as it should? Becuase it still points to an orthodox (re: straight) view of Our Community as deviant, in behaviour if not at least in reasons, if you catch my drift. As if to say something terrible has to happen to MAKE US gay. We can't just Be Gay.
Well. Team Lex says hard cheese
Also, if any of you would care to read my last foray into the supernerdy world of fanfic....first of all, mock away, I've been trying to legitimise the field for eight years. Second of all, let me know or I'll throwq the link up here. So, you know, you can mock some more
I think we've all had some sort of feeling towards our high school friends, it's only normal. Usually guys fall in love with girls in high school, so to same happens to us, except, you know, most of the time we make the mistake of having a crush on a straight guy (which has happened to me hundreds of times).
"Were you molested?" What an awful question. Nobody has ever asked me that. I do get a lot of people asking if I'm bisexual. And I say no, why would I be bisexual, I just said homosexual, wasn't that clear enough for you?
ThatGuyRoman wrote:Oh yes, I remember that scene, I honestly didn't even realize it was Tom Hardy until I recently rewatched the series.
And Roman, I'm sure if you say you're bisexual no one ever asks you if that means you are homosexual.