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by **Benderbrau** » Wed Apr 11, 2012 12:28 pm

bkthomson wrote:Ok fair enough, but if the person is uncomfortable with the request should he or she ignore that feeling and just go plow all the fields he can find?

If they're 100% uncomfortable with the request then no but then if that was the case here we wouldn't be seeing this thread then would we? :lol:

by **Apache Chef** » Wed Apr 11, 2012 12:32 pm

I think she's telling Dragovan to go do what he wants because she's currently doing what she wants.

But that's coming from a jaded divorcee.

by **bkthomson** » Wed Apr 11, 2012 12:32 pm

Benderbrau wrote:If they're 100% uncomfortable with the request then no but then if that was the case here we wouldn't be seeing this thread then would we?

So if it is 50% comfort level go head out to the fields?

by **Dragavon** » Wed Apr 11, 2012 12:38 pm

Apache Chef wrote:I think she's telling Dragovan to go do what he wants because she's currently doing what she wants.

But that's coming from a jaded divorcee.

I think her last boyfriend cheated on her. That's why she has the attitude that if I am going to do something I should tell her. She's more upset by the idea that I would lie to her (which I wouldn't) than by me being with another woman.

Reality is, I'm probably not going to do anything. Definitely no more one night stands. If I find a "fuck buddy" that would be okay but I'm not going to go out to bars every night.

by **Benderbrau** » Wed Apr 11, 2012 12:38 pm

bkthomson wrote:
So if it is 50% comfort level go head out to the fields?

Yup. If any level of you wants to go have anonymous sex and there is no other party stopping you then you are essentially a single man and should be allowed to behave as such if you want to.

by **Benderbrau** » Wed Apr 11, 2012 12:44 pm

Dragavon wrote:I think her last boyfriend cheated on her. That's why she has the attitude that if I am going to do something I should tell her. She's more upset by the idea that I would lie to her (which I wouldn't) than by me being with another woman.

Reality is, I'm probably not going to do anything. Definitely no more one night stands. If I find a "fuck buddy" that would be okay but I'm not going to go out to bars every night.

That's a new wrinkle. If she's telling you to do it because she's afraid you're going to do it anyways that's not someone with an open attitude, that's someone with trust issues. In that case fucking random chicks would only validate her negative opinions of men and lump you in with them.

It also stands in conflict with her earlier glib attitude of "go practice so I can reap the rewards" comment.

Remember that tradition you mentioned earlier about her going from her father's house to yours? you might went to squeeze in a stop off at the marriage councilor's office along the way 'cause I don't think she knows what she wants.

by **Dragavon** » Wed Apr 11, 2012 12:46 pm

Benderbrau wrote:That's a new wrinkle. If she's telling you to do it because she's afraid you're going to do it anyways that's not someone with an open attitude, that's someone with trust issues. In that case fucking random chicks would only validate her negative opinions of men and lump you in with them.

It also stands in conflict with her earlier glib attitude of "go practice so I can reap the rewards" comment.

Remember that tradition you mentioned earlier about her going from her father's house to yours? you might went to squeeze in a stop off at the marriage councilor's office along the way 'cause I don't think she knows what she wants.

Maybe you're right. All I know is if I were to do something (and that's a big if), I would run it past her.

She's my wife and I don't intend to make her unhappy.

by **Benderbrau** » Wed Apr 11, 2012 12:47 pm

Dragavon wrote:Maybe you're right. All I know is if I were to do something (and that's a big if), I would run it past her.

She's my wife and I don't intend to make her unhappy.

Wow, you are new to marriage aren't you? :lol:

by **bkthomson** » Wed Apr 11, 2012 12:48 pm

Benderbrau wrote:That's a new wrinkle. If she's telling you to do it because she's afraid you're going to do it anyways that's not someone with an open attitude, that's someone with trust issues. In that case fucking random chicks would only validate her negative opinions of men and lump you in with them.

It also stands in conflict with her earlier glib attitude of "go practice so I can reap the rewards" comment.

Remember that tradition you mentioned earlier about her going from her father's house to yours? you might went to squeeze in a stop off at the marriage councilor's office along the way 'cause I don't think she knows what she wants.

Yeah hate to say it but Bender is right. You could be compounding more trust issues. While I would not say that marriage counselor right out the door it is an idea to look into down the line once you are settled in. This is not for anything bad just to help work your relationship.

by **Dragavon** » Wed Apr 11, 2012 12:48 pm

Benderbrau wrote:Maybe you're right. All I know is if I were to do something (and that's a big if), I would run it past her.

She's my wife and I don't intend to make her unhappy.[/quote]
Wow, you are new to marriage aren't you?

Amended to I'll try not to make her unhappy. :lol:

by **Benderbrau** » Wed Apr 11, 2012 12:50 pm

bkthomson wrote:Yeah hate to say it but Bender is right.

Why does everyone keep saying that?

Website · by **prozacman** » Wed Apr 11, 2012 12:52 pm

On the completely sinnical side, if you ever get divorced she could use it against you. "He cheated on me only weeks after we got married. Look at this thread on the Outhouse the greatest comic book web sight on the planet as proof!!!"

by **Benderbrau** » Wed Apr 11, 2012 12:54 pm

prozacman wrote:On the completely sinnical side, if you ever get divorced she could use it against you. "He cheated on me only weeks after we got married. Look at this thread on the Outhouse the greatest comic book web sight on the planet as proof!!!"

Judge summons entire Outhouse memberlist to court as witnesses
LUTZ enuses
Everyone wins

by **Dragavon** » Wed Apr 11, 2012 12:55 pm

Benderbrau wrote:Judge summons entire Outhouse memberlist to court as witnesses
LUTZ enuses
Everyone wins

And now I see the downside.

by **sdsichero** » Wed Apr 11, 2012 12:57 pm

bkthomson wrote:Well we are happy married, not sure about you, so we may have an idea or two what could be viewed as a TRAP!

Benderbrau wrote:I am married and it's not a trap. How do I know this? Because I get my experience with women from real life and not sitcoms and bad internet memes.

Hehe I note the omission of "happy". Then again, thinking Bender, one does not normally think "happy".