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by **Dragavon** » Wed Apr 11, 2012 2:01 am

As many of you know I'm now married. But there's a twist in that there is a final ceremony in which the bride leaves the father's house and goes to her husband. So the marriage is not considered complete until that happens.

Meanwhile my wife is telling me to "sow my wild oats" before that happens. Seriously I have no idea what to do as I talk to her every day and she's asking me if I've found a girlfriend yet? :shock:

Whatever else I expected, I really didn't expect this conversation.

WTF do I do? What would you do in this situation?

by **rdrsfn82** » Wed Apr 11, 2012 2:13 am

You should do whatever you feel comfortable with. If you don't want to go out and meet girls and try to get laid, don't do it. If that's something you want to take advantage of, and you feel comfortable doing it, then go for it.

by **xaraan** » Wed Apr 11, 2012 2:13 am

It's a trap

by **Dragavon** » Wed Apr 11, 2012 2:20 am

xaraan wrote:It's a trap

No, it's really not. She keeps bringing it up. I told her I was busy finishing my school and looking for a job. Her response was that I better get it done once I'm done with both.

by **Dragavon** » Wed Apr 11, 2012 2:20 am

rdrsfn82 wrote:You should do whatever you feel comfortable with. If you don't want to go out and meet girls and try to get laid, don't do it. If that's something you want to take advantage of, and you feel comfortable doing it, then go for it.

I expected that once I got married, it was monogamy for the rest of my life. :smt102

by **rdrsfn82** » Wed Apr 11, 2012 2:22 am

Then you should just tell her that, or tell her you'd rather not talk about this stuff and then just not act on it.

You shouldn't feel pressured to do anything just because it's culturally acceptable.

by **Benderbrau** » Wed Apr 11, 2012 2:23 am

The answer is obvious...

threesome!

by **Benderbrau** » Wed Apr 11, 2012 2:23 am

Dragavon wrote:I expected that once I got married, it was monogamy for the rest of my life.

Then be grateful that you were wrong

by **Dragavon** » Wed Apr 11, 2012 2:28 am

Benderbrau wrote:The answer is obvious...

threesome!

That's something we have discussed already. :lol:

by **Dragavon** » Wed Apr 11, 2012 2:30 am

If my wife has given me a free pass, I guess I should use it?

But seriously what do I say to anybody I meet. I don't want to lie. Do I mention the married thing or do I just omit it completely?

by **Benderbrau** » Wed Apr 11, 2012 2:34 am

Dragavon wrote:If my wife has given me a free pass, I guess I should use it?

But seriously what do I say to anybody I meet. I don't want to lie. Do I mention the married thing or do I just omit it completely?

If you're going to a bar to pick up loose women they don't generally ask if you're married or getting married. I doubt it would even come up in conversation.

by **Benderbrau** » Wed Apr 11, 2012 2:35 am

Dragavon wrote:That's something we have discussed already.

by **sdsichero** » Wed Apr 11, 2012 2:37 am

Dragavon wrote:No, it's really not. She keeps bringing it up. I told her I was busy finishing my school and looking for a job. Her response was that I better get it done once I'm done with both.

She's testing you.

What? I'm married to my job.

by **Dragavon** » Wed Apr 11, 2012 2:38 am

Benderbrau wrote:If you're going to a bar to pick up loose women they don't generally ask if you're married or getting married. I doubt it would even come up in conversation.

I wear a wedding ring now. Should I take it off before I go out? Somebody actually told me I would attract more attention with it on.

These are the kind of important details I guess I need to know?

by **Benderbrau** » Wed Apr 11, 2012 2:44 am

Dragavon wrote:I wear a wedding ring now. Should I take it off before I go out? Somebody actually told me I would attract more attention with it on.

These are the kind of important details I guess I need to know?

I thought Muslim custom for married couples was a necklace, not a ring?

Well regardless, take it off. It creates more questions then it's worth unless you want to spend the entire evening explaining to women the arrangement and answer all the questions that follow. Better to spend the time getting to know the woman instead of her getting to know your wife's openly thinking mindset. Besides the whole "attracts more attention" is kind of a myth. Sure some women like it but just as many women will be deterred by it while no woman is turned off by a man not wearing a ring. Why limit your odds.