Alright, i know this is really delayed, but i hope this clears some stuff up.
What Brian Wood did was skeevy, gross, and awkward. It put Miss Fowler in a terrible position, which fits into the larger narrative of women feeling uncomfortable and out of place in the industry and at cons due to assholes like him. This is obviously a huge problem that needs to be addressed, but i took issue with how this was handled.
I come from a world where i deal with angry, screaming, emotional people constantly. Constantly wanting something from me, and losing their shit over it. My job is to work around these emotional situations, talk people down, and reason with them in an adult manner. Almost every single adult i have ever encountered that has been hysterical with me, has been able to calm down and become reasonable. With this in mind, when i see a twitter rant like that, it relates to my personal experience with angry, hysterical people, which is never a positive memory. So seeing her act like this, my immediate reaction to it is that she could have handled it much more calmly and realistically, having been in the receiving end of screaming rants, i just know it helps nothing to "get emotional".
Now, is "getting emotional" something that immediately invalidates an argument? No way. Anyone that has read a post of mine knows that i can get emotional from time to time (
); we all do. I'm just coming from a place where i am so used to outrageous rants like this, from the outside looking in, it just looks silly and foolish to me and appeals to the "fixer" mentality that my workplace has instilled in me.
So to put it simply. No, meinterrupted, I am not sexist, I am just adverse to people shouting to get their point across. Be it a male, female, puppy, whatever , I don't like it. Its something I deal with on a daily basis at work, and its not something i appreciate coming from people regardless of who they are. I've just simply learned that a calm, reasoned approach speaks far greater volumes about a person than a poorly written curse-fest like Tess originally wrote. I really appreciate her follow up though, and felt as though it was extremely valid. I agree with her for the most part, and find the sexism in the industry disgusting. As someone who travels at cons with a few exceedingly gorgeous women who happen to be mildly "internet famous", i see the dark side of congoing quite a bit.