Seeing the thread about bubba the other day, and seeing all the great advice, i thought i would see what you guys think about my situation.
Some history here:
About a month ago i was promoted to supervisor of my department (Guest Services) at Henryford Museum and Greenfield Village, which was great. My ex's mother is a fellow supervisor, and even after we broke up vouched for me and was a huge factor in my promotion. I still work with my ex, and now I'm her boss.
My ex has spent the last several months talking shit about me to people we work with, and spreading rumors, etc. and i have been taking this with grace, just brushing it off as something inevitable (she is my ex after all, i get it), and people already know me and would never change their opinions about me just because shes being mean.
Anyways, this attitude she has is being noticed by just about everyone, and just about everyone in the department apart from my boss is sick and tired of her bullshit, and this is even made worse by the fact that my boss wants to promote her potentially.
So, of course, I've spent the better half of the last three weeks trying to avoid these people talking shit about my ex, as to avoid unneeded drama ( and to be honest, because i think shes a cool girl and i still appreciate her). I've slipped up a few times and admitted that i don't believe shes a very good fit because of her attitude, but I've gone out of my way to be as professional as possible.
So the other day, she did something extremely typical of everything people have been complaining about and my boss called her out on it. She got really defensive, and kept on asking me why my boss is being so hard on her. I explained to her that she needs to start being more aware that there is an added pressure on her to do well because of the possible promotion (something that her mother has already told her about) and that people are always gonna have opinions about it, and she needs to be aware that people are getting very critical about it.
She flipped out and started crying and demanding that i tell her who's "talking shit about her" and i assured her that there was nothing like that going on. She continued with that for about 15 minutes, and then called her mother, who called me on my cell phone to chastise me for "being unprofessional and causing drama".
i asked a few people for advice in how to handle her, and how i could let her know i was just looking out for her best interest, but that blew up in my face too. I now have a scheduled meeting with my boss and my ex and her mom so that i can be tought some professionalism.
I kind of feel like im getting ganged up on and getting set up for humiliation, and i dont like it one bit. I don't know how to handle this situation, or how to handle the meeting on tuesday. Its just frustrating.
i know this shit is long, thanks for reading if you made it this far.
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